However, as a philosopher I find it difficult to give a credible answer, considering the complexity of an existential event which on the one hand involves feelings, physical sensations and organic chemistry all together and, on the other hand, calls upon reason, evaluation, choice (more or less explicitly, with a variable degree of awareness).
On the physical sensation side – the obscure, pre-verbal, mysterious side – as philosophical practitioners we don’t have much to say. On the contrary, we have a lot to say about another aspect of love, less mysterious, but much more practical. It is indeed obvious that what we call love, whatever it is, translates into actions, gestures, contacts or refusals, openings or closings, relationships or rejections. In this sense, love is a whole scenario of gestures, dialogues, actions, choices where each of us is an actor fully aware of playing a role, of which he is co-author with the other, while trying to follow a thick net of social rules. On such a stage, a philosopher is able to recognize the game of the characters: sometimes the tuning between them is such that love blooms, sometimes the gap between reality and imagination is so deep that the characters on the scene can no longer understand each other, and love comes to an end.
In a philosophical counselling we work on the coherence between the characters and the people that play them.